Marriage has
to stay in its proper
perspective. You become
a defeated Christian single when you spend so much time being preoccupied with getting married,
that you become ineffective in your
Singleness. Don’t
get
so caught up in the bondage of married-mindedness
that you
miss the freedom
of Singleness. There is a freedom that comes
from having only to think
on the things of the
Lord right now. We lose
that when we start dwelling on, “When
I get
married, I will…” or
“My husband
and
I will…” News Flash! While you are busy planning your future, you
are
failing to live
in your present! You are telling
God this stage you are in isn’t
worthy enough for you to actualize or
develop
in, so you will just bury it and wait on
Him to return to get you
out of it. This same viewpoint
comes from only knowing of the
Master and His plan, instead of
spending the time really getting to
know Him. I caution you
to remember what
happened to the unwise
servant with this
same viewpoint.
We have to use
our Single season to
learn how to fit our lives around
our time with God, not fitting God
around our lives. In
the first scenario, our
agenda and plans are on the throne of our heart; in
the latter Christ is.
Singleness is
a time
to anchor, deadbolt, and superglue Christ to the top priority in our life because if
He is not on the throne as
a Single, He will not
magically jump on it
when we get
married. The purpose of our
Singleness is
to be used for God’s glory. If He is not getting glory from our
Single life, how can we imagine
Him
getting it from our
married life? Jeremiah
29:11 says God knows the plans He has for us,
of good and not of evil,
to give us a hope and an expected
end. So our Singleness is
in His plan just as our marriage will
be.
If marriage is the “expected
end” to this
stage of our life,
why
not enjoy the journey getting there?
It’s
been
stated that a Single
person
once
said, “I hope Jesus doesn't come back before I get married.” Although
maybe spoken in
jest,
it’s sad because many of us agree with
this. We can't allow
earthly pleasures to
take precedence over an eternal perspective.
That you would even consider prolonging
being in this world, in exchange for your
heavenly home, shows signs
of a deeper
issue. Anything more important than being
with your Heavenly
King has become an idol—even
marriage.
Once marriage becomes an
idol the enemy has succeeded in distracting us, and
a distracted Christian
is an ineffective Christian. If you
focus so much on the one tree that you can’t
have,
Eve, you will forget about every other tree that is at your
disposal. I believe this
is how she was lured
away, by her
own lust for what was forbidden. Satan convinced her
that the only thing that she didn’t have was
the one thing she couldn’t live
without.
He is still using the
same trick on us today. Why? Because
it is still working. He doesn’t have to
change his M.O.
because we are still falling for
it. If
he can get us to
doubt God’s love and provision
by
making us feel like
He
is withholding something good,
then he can get
us to doubt everything else
our faith has already proven.
Satan’s goal
is not only to kill you. He understands the concept to
be absent
from the body is to
be present with the Lord, so to
kill
you would only push you into
the arms of your Creator.
That
wouldn’t benefit him at all and you
are
much more valuable to
him being ineffective. An ineffective Christian
is one that will get to
Heaven, but won’t bring anyone else
with
him.
It is one who is not growing in God,
not performing His
will,
and not working for the Kingdom. Now this Christian—Satan can
use. You are more valuable to him
than
a legion of his demons
at this
point.
Because
no one will expect you to
be used by him, he can slip
you in under the radar and infiltrate places that his demons would be recognized. Because you are so
depressed
in your
Single
state, you miss
out on the wonderful blessings of this
season and end up pulling down everyone connected to
you. Don’t be the
devil’s punk. Fight
for your
contentment and remember who you are
and Whose you are.
